Perimenopause Slacker Guide
The few things that actually matter — and permission to ignore the rest.
We've made perimenopause impossibly complicated. There are 47 supplements, a dozen podcasts, an influencer for every symptom, and somehow you're supposed to optimize your way through a decade of hormonal change while also holding down the rest of your life. It's exhausting before you've even started.
So we did the sorting for you. We read the actual evidence — the Cochrane reviews, the randomized trials, the position statements from the menopause societies — and threw out everything that couldn't earn its place. What's left is short. That's the point. This is the smart woman's shortcut guide to getting the important things right, and feeling calmer about skipping everything else.
We've made perimenopause impossibly complicated. It's exhausting before you've even started.
So we did the sorting for you. We read the actual evidence and threw out everything that couldn't earn its place. What's left is short. That's the point. This is the smart woman's shortcut guide to getting the important things right, and feeling calmer about skipping everything else.
First, why any of this matters
Perimenopause isn't just hot flashes and mood swings you wait out. The hormones that fluctuate and eventually drop during this transition — mainly estrogen — do quiet, important work all over your body. Estrogen helps protect your bones from thinning, helps keep your heart and blood vessels flexible, and plays a role in brain and mood regulation. As it declines, the protection it provided declines too.
Here's the encouraging part: this is exactly why the choices you make now carry weight. The bone and muscle you build in your forties is the reserve you draw on in your seventies. The habits you set during the transition are the ones that pay off for decades. Some things on this list make the transition itself more bearable (better sleep, fewer symptoms); others are genuine long-term investments in how you age. We'll be honest about which is which — because the difference matters, and nobody else seems to be telling you.
None of it requires becoming a different person. It just requires knowing where to point your limited energy.
DO THIS — the short list worth your energy
1. Have the MHT conversation — early. Notice this says have the conversation, not "take hormones." Menopause hormone therapy is the single most effective treatment for the disruptive symptoms — hot flashes, night sweats — and it protects your bones. For many women who start near the onset of menopause and have no contraindications, the benefits outweigh the risks. It was unfairly feared for two decades after one widely misreported study, and a lot of women are still quietly suffering because of it. You don't have to wait until you're miserable. Find a menopause-informed doctor and discuss how MHT may alleviate your symptoms. That's the whole action item.
2. Lift heavy things, 2–3 times a week. This is the most consistently evidence-backed lifestyle move you can make. Strength training protects the bone density and muscle mass that hormonal change erodes — and it does more for you than any supplement in the same category. Bonus: adding creatine (~5g a day, the cheapest supplement on the shelf) gives a small but real boost to strength gains when paired with lifting. It's one of the very few supplements that actually holds up in trials for women.
3. Eat enough protein. Not "protein-maxxing," not powders and targets that require a spreadsheet — just enough, which is more than most women eat. Roughly 1.2–1.6 grams per kilogram (or 0.5-0.75g per pound) of body weight supports the muscle you're building and helps with the body-composition shifts of this stage. If you weigh around 150 lbs, aim for roughly 80–105g of protein per day. Think of it as feeding the work you're doing in the gym, not a diet.
4. Protect your sleep like it's your job. Poor sleep quietly drives half the other symptoms — the mood swings, the brain fog, the cravings, the short fuse. The basics are unglamorous and they work: a consistent schedule, a cool dark room, and treating the night sweats (see #1) instead of white-knuckling through them. If you're exhausted, fix sleep first — a lot of other things improve downstream.
5. Keep some cardio. Don't swap it all for strength. There's a loud trend right now telling women that "cardio is aging you" and to drop it for lifting. Ignore it. Yes, lift — but heart disease is the number-one killer of women, and the heart protection estrogen once offered fades right at this life stage. Walking counts (faster is better). So does dancing, cycling, or anything that gets you breathing harder a few times a week.
6. Get tested — then fix what's actually low. This is the truth about supplements: they fix deficiencies, they don't fix menopause. The ones worth your money are the ones correcting a real gap — most commonly vitamin D (hard to get enough of through a Canadian winter), vitamin B12, and iron if you're low — which is common in perimenopause, because heavier and unpredictable periods quietly drain your stores. Ask your doctor for a simple blood panel, fix what's genuinely deficient, and skip the 14-ingredient "peri blend."
7. Keep your people close. This isn't a soft add-on. Strong social connection is one of the most robust predictors of long-term health and mental wellbeing in all of medicine — on par with the physical stuff. And perimenopause is isolating in a specific way: the mood swings, the rage, the sense that no one warned you. Texting a friend back is a legitimate health intervention. Talking about it out loud is often how you discover you're not losing your mind — you're just in perimenopause, like millions of others.
SKIP THIS — where the industry is making money off you
None of these will hurt you much beyond your wallet — but the evidence doesn't support them, and you have full permission to walk past.
Herbal "perimenopause blends" (black cohosh, ashwagandha stacks, mushroom formulas). A Cochrane review of 16 trials and over 2,000 women found insufficient evidence that black cohosh — the headline ingredient in most of these — relieves menopausal symptoms. This is also the fastest-growing corner of the supplement market, which tells you where the marketing dollars are.
At-home hormone test kits (DUTCH, saliva panels). Perimenopause is diagnosed by your symptoms and your age, not a snapshot — your hormones swing so much day to day that a single test can't tell you much. Save the $300.
Testosterone sold as a "vitality" cure. Testosterone is legitimate for one specific thing — low sexual desire that's causing distress — prescribed and monitored by a real doctor. The version marketed for "energy" and "drive" via pellets and compounding pharmacies is running well ahead of the evidence.
"Cortisol" as a self-diagnosis. You can't diagnose a cortisol problem from a TikTok, and the drinks and powders sold to "lower" it aren't proven to. Stress is real; the cortisol-fixing product economy is mostly not.
Seed cycling. Eating specific seeds on a rotation to "balance" hormones is harmless, but there's no meaningful clinical evidence it does anything for perimenopause.
NAD+ drips, peptides, and the longevity-IV industrial complex. Expensive, trendy, and unproven for this stage of life.
FINE, IF YOU ENJOY IT — no evidence you need it, no reason to stop
The slacker's mercy clause: if something is safe, affordable, and you genuinely like it, keep it. Just drop the guilt that it's a to-do.
Yoga and stretching. Genuinely good for mobility, balance, and stress — just not a hormone treatment. If it's your wind-down, keep it.
Magnesium at night. The evidence is thin, but it's cheap and safe, and if it's part of your bedtime routine, there's no reason to stop.
Cortisol "mocktails." As a tasty non-alcoholic drink, sure. As medicine, no. The ritual of making one may be the calming part — that's allowed.
Weighted-vest walks. Walking is excellent. The vest won't rebuild your bones the way the marketing implies (researchers say the evidence isn't there yet), but if you enjoy the challenge, it won't hurt.
Cold plunges. Some people love how they feel afterward. Not a hormone therapy — just a bracing hobby.
The most effective things are the ones nobody's selling you.
Move your body. Lift something heavy. Eat enough. Sleep. Talk to a good doctor about hormones. Stay close to your people. That's most of it — and almost all of it is free. The expensive, complicated stuff is mostly noise.
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A few of our sources
Kept short on purpose — these are the kinds of places this guide draws from, not marketing blogs.
• North American Menopause Society (NAMS) & Canadian Menopause Society — Hormone Therapy Position Statement
• Global Consensus Position Statement on the Use of Testosterone Therapy for Women (Endocrine Society, IMS, and others)
• Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews — Black cohosh for menopausal symptoms
• Systematic reviews & meta-analyses on creatine and resistance training in older women; strength training and bone mineral density
• Randomized trials on weighted-vest use and bone health (JAMA Network Open and related)
This guide is general information, not medical advice. Your body and history are your own — use it to have better conversations with a doctor who knows you.